I am worried about how my MIL eats. She doesn't. She tells me she eats "toast and tea" in the morning and then isn't hungry the rest of the day. I know, for a fact, that she crams Oreo Cookies and other sweets down her gullet on a daily basis.
So, I went online to find out about the elderly and nutrition. There is a a term called the "tea and toast" syndrome. It came about due to old people living alone and all they could make was toast and tea. These seniors suffer from malnutrition..which is not diagnosed because if their vitals are okay..then the dr. never asks what they eat.
Well, my MIL had a sudden spike in blood pressure last week..so she happily takes more pills. I have been hounding her to eat more meat and veggies...which she will not do. She wobbles down the hall and says she has no energy. Hello?? I asked her if she told her Dr. what she eats on a daily basis. "He didn't ask", she said. Malnutrition also contributes to dementia....and her memory is getting worse by the day.
I take food over daily...good food, healthy food. I go and look in the frig 2x a week and see that the food I brought over is still there.
My FIL had his last chemo-type treatment on Friday. His temp came up today..I went over and took his temp. It was 100.4 and then 100.3. I told him I'd bring some soup over. My MIL called to say that he didn't want to eat....they had some leftover meatloaf in the frig that I'd brought over on Thursday. I questioned that decision, saying..."but I thought dad wanted soup or pasta...and you should eat too". She said..."thanks, but to be honest, we are not hungry at all. Why eat if we are not hungry? We don't want to get fat". I tried to tell her that our bodies and organs need nutrients...even if we don't feel like it. It's like running a car on fumes. She said, "don't bring food...we are fine".
I am worried. They both look skinny to me.